THE SELF MODEL
The Self Model.
A map for understanding yourself, so the life you build is genuinely yours.
Your past influences you, you live and act from your core, and you move toward the self you choose to become. It is the map at the center of my coaching. Explore it below: tap any part to open what is inside and how you work with it.
Tap any part of the map to open it, or expand a section below.
The past that influences you
What still shapes how you act, good and hard. Above the line, protective factors (secure base, mentors, mastery); below, adverse experiences (trauma, loss, attachment wounds).
The self, at center
Your Core sits inside your Inner World (beliefs, identity, patterns), inside your Outer World (environment, people, culture).
The future, projected
You move toward a hoped-for self or a feared self. The work is steering, in line with your core, toward the one you choose.
Inside each part
Tap a part of the map above, or open a section here, for what is inside it and how you work with it.
What's in it
Protective factors
Adverse experiences
How you work with it
With the hard
- Therapy & acceptance make peace with what happened so it stops running you
- Shadow work uncover and reclaim what you disowned
- Parts work (IFS) understand why you react the way you do today
- Somatic processing release what the body still holds
With the good
- Lean on your lessons apply what life already taught you
- Draw on your people the ones who helped you along the way
- Leverage your strengths the skill and knowledge you've built over time
What's in it
How you work with it
- Environment design make the good behavior the easy one
- People audit surround yourself with people who pull you toward your hoped-for self
- Routines & cues engineer your defaults so willpower isn't the plan
What's in it
How you work with it
- Goal setting turn the vision into the next concrete move
- Manifestation & affirmations rehearse the identity until it feels true
- Reframing test and rewrite the beliefs that limit you
- Parts work meet the protective and wounded parts inside
- Narrative rewrite become the author of your story, not its victim
What's in it
How you work with it
- Values & strengths work name what's truly you, then steer by it
- Awareness & mindfulness the gate: you can't change what you can't see
- Regulation build the steady floor everything else stands on
What's in it
Hoped-for self
Feared self
How you work with it
Toward the hoped-for self
- Vision & visualization make the future self vivid enough to pull you
- Goals & if-then plans build the bridge from here to there
- Manifestation & affirmations hold the identity steadily in view
- Alignment check is this future true to my core?
With the feared self
- Name what you fear becoming so it loses its grip
- Let it sharpen your values the fear shows what you refuse
- Set guardrails against the slow drift you don't want
Change is the way. Work with what influences you from the past, strengthen your core, and steer toward the self you choose to become.
THE SELF MODEL
Know yourself, then build the life that fits.
The Self Model runs underneath all of my coaching. If understanding yourself and aligning your direction with who you actually are is the work you want to do, let's talk.